My Process

I have been asked often in the last week “what is my process?” And that is a very difficult thing for me to explain for some reason, but I’m going to try...

Growing up with the gift of being able to communicate with Spirits has not always been easy. When I was little, I didn’t really know how to “control it,” so it scared me more often than not. Granted, I think that it also had a lot to do with the reactions that I got from the adults that were around me whenever I said anything about seeing the Spirits. Today, I know that it was only because what I was doing wasn’t “normal.” Now, you see, kids are very open to the Spiritual world, and are often able to communicate with Spirits. Many people believe that every child comes into this world able to communicate with their Guides and Spirits. Some kids will shut this gift off and will never reopen it again, some will continue to work on it and develop it further, some will simply lose their gift, and others like me, will shut it off and turn it back on when they think that they are ready.

Once I decided to accept my gift as an adult, I had to learn how to “control it.” Every medium has found their own way of doing that; some will wear a hat most of the time and once they are ready to receive messages, they will take it off, others will keep themselves “on” all the time, and some like myself will just ask Spirit “to let me be” unless I ask. All of this sounds super simple, and it is, but it is not at the same time. But thankfully Spirit comes from a place of pure love, and they know that in the beginning you are working on being able to flip this on and off switch that allows for communication. I will never forget my first circle... It was the first month or so of me enrolling in a mediumship course. I didn’t even know what a circle was, all I knew is that I had to be at a yoga studio a certain day and time. So, I took it off from work and there I went.

Once I got to the studio, I was told to grab blankets or a chair and find my place on the floor. My teacher explained that we were forming a circle.... So far so good, after all it’s called circle... I as a teacher's pet set next to her and waited anxiously. It was clear to me that I was the baby of the group. Everyone seemed to know what to grab and where to sit and what was going to happen. So, I did what I do in every situation that I’m not familiar with.... I stayed silent and observed. Once everyone was comfortable in their places, my teacher introduced a gentleman who was sitting in a very relaxed manner across from her. She explained to us that this was her teacher, a very well-known medium in the community, who had moved away and was here to visit! She asked him to start us in a guided meditation as she turned down the lights and put on meditation music.

We meditated for about ten minutes or so, and it was incredibly relaxing. Once he brought us back, my teacher said, “Great! Who wants to start?” At that moment I felt my eyes open up and I became super intrigued. I had no idea what was about to happen, but it felt like it was something good... Another moment of silence and it started.... One of the girls (reader) asked another girl (sitter) “Can I come to you?” and of course the response was “yes!” So, the reader started describing one of the sitters’ relatives and as this was happening my teacher just sat back and watched. Once the reader was done, she said “I’m complete” and my teacher explained what happened for those of us (ME) who were newbies. When doing a reading in a circle you ask a person if it’s ok for you to “come to them” or “step into their energy” and once you have gotten approval you may start saying what you feel, hear, know, smell or see. Once you are done and you no longer have anything else, you say “I will leave that with you” or “I’m complete.” This allows the rest of the people in the circle know that they can jump in and read the same person or better yet someone new.

As everyone went back and forth, I was amazed. I received messages from a few of the girls and everyone had their own way of giving messages. It was truly remarkable. My teacher was coaching some of the girls and everyone seemed super open to learning how to give readings and receiving them as well. As the circle went on, my teacher asked those of us who hadn’t spoken a word to please try to give a reading. Her teacher reminded us that all we had to do was take a deep breath and my teacher told us to just step out of the way and let Spirit do the work.... I was called out by her teacher to try to read. I don’t remember what I said or who I read, but by the end his jaw was open. They laughed and he said “wow, it’s the quiet ones who you have to watch out for.” Apparently, I had read a few people, and I was accurate. I don’t remember what I said, or who I talked to... All I remember was taking a deep breath and saying in my head “alright, if I’m a medium, you guys better come help me...”

Every reading that I have ever given, I have had to do this.... I remember driving the day of my certification exam and thinking “alright, if I’m really supposed to be a medium, and if I’m really supposed to help people, everyone needs to come together up there and help me today.... PLEASE!” And they did! As a professional ballroom dancer and teacher, I’m used to practicing a lot and just trusting that my body will do what it has been trained to do. Trust is what I preach to all my students and what I tell myself every time I’m about to step onto the dance floor. However, I can’t say that the more that I practice Mediumship the easier it becomes. I have noticed that the more readings that I do, the more confident I become until it’s time for me to read someone again... I can tell you that I can remember a lot more of each session, and that it’s not as physically draining anymore. You see, when a medium reads someone, it is different each and every time. Some people are so open to it, and their Spirits are so strong that it’s nice and easy... others aren’t as open to it or are expecting very specific messages or people.

The beauty of mediumship is that it cannot be falsified. I, as a medium, take in a lot of pressure and responsibility in every reading. I ask all my guides and spirits to come with me. I ask the sitter to ask their guides and spirits to come with them. I ask them to please ask their guides and loved ones to talk to me, and to be open. Every time that I’m on my way to do a reading, I ask my guides to please come with me and be very clear in what I’m to say. I like for Spirit to be very specific, this way the sitter is able to tell who I’m communicating with. If I know the sitter, I ask Spirit to tell me things that I do not know about.

I’m always in just as much shock as the sitter.... Sometimes the things that the sitter’s loved ones will talk about are so precise and in a way bizarre that gives the sitter the certainty that I’m not making it up, and that their loved one really is there. The more readings I do, the more I trust that Spirit will come. The more I trust, the more people I’m able to help.

So, as far as a process, I guess I don’t have one other than asking my guides and loved ones to please come with me. I ask the sitter to ask the same thing of their spirits and loved ones. When I’m in front of the sitter, I take a deep breath, explain what it is that I do once more. Then I take another deep breath and mentally ask for the session to start…. That’s it.